Love is the saviour.

5:01 AM

So, I was editing right now. When am I not? Editing is life now! Anyway, So what I wondered was If I like what I see on the screen. Well, yeah..After this hair, A lot. haha! In fact I was editing an old video where I was wearing a bodycon dress too tight to breathe. I have no clue why I was wearing it, but I still liked how I styled it.

“So…do I like what I see?

Then? A lot.

Now? A lot more.“

Well, I am ageing quite well. No complains in that department. Only love !!

I take care of myself better at this age more than ever. When I don’t , It feels that clearly something isn’t right- Physically, Mentally or Emotionally !

Prerequisite to life are these two words: Self Love.

Most traumas have just one solution: Self Love.

It is the saviour and it is the solution. Self love has brought me out of the most traumatic times.

People try to search for a soulmate all their lives. They want a person to adore their unwanted parts (Those parts even which they hate about themselves) and some lucky ones like myself will meet soulmates in form of friends and lovers who’d love them for their worst features unstoppably.

So, I just tweeted this:

“_{If you won’t like yourself, who will? And, even if someone else madly adores you, It wouldn’t matter because it’s impossible for someone to next to you 24/7 in adoration mode.}“

If you stay with an awful person who treats you like a piece of shit, Lack of self love will keep you in there. If you stay with the best person on earth who treats you like a queen/king, Lack of self love will make you treat them like shit.

You see ?

You wouldn’t fall in love with yourself when you’re at your fittest. You wouldn’t fall for yourself while you’re at your most successful. If you love yourself and you’re crying yourself to sleep each night, you would some night tell yourself, ” I don’t deserve this fcking shit! I need to fix this!” and you get up the next morning. If not the next, then next to next to next. But eventually, it pulls you out and makes you go into the fixing mode. And, that’s exactly when it happens, when it strikes-Thoughts like:

“I love how I work, I love how I am striving, I love how my body feels right now, I know this isn’t the perfect me but I will eventually reach my goal, I have been there before. It is possible. Wow ! Is this even me? I am a wonderful piece of art.”

If you don’t like your fixing phase, You wouldn’t like your destination either.

We all have parts about ourselves that we hate; For me, They were always my triceps or, how I can sometimes lose my cool, or how I can’t just wait and I want everything the same day I decide and plenty more.

Does that mean I dislike myself? Well, Maybe momentarily and I know for sure, it’s for 10 minutes.

Self Love is often confused with Selfishness. It is totally incorrect. One can be 100% compassionate towards others when he or she loves themselves (first).

FAQ: Epitome of self love is hazardous.

Answer: The more the merrier. For you and for the ones who love you.

How to love yourself?

Work within and gently rise above the loathe. Easier said than done. For some, it might be a tougher task. I am someone who becomes extremely uncomfortable when I start to dislike myself (Everyone does!) but I identify my triggers way early now, and mostly its when I am eating wrong or not eating at all, or when I am not working // lazing more for a longer period than usual. Or, when I’ve been rude to my mom. There are some triggers that I try to fix to instantly to feel better and that is a constant work.

There’s a time for everything and we really need to understand how to love ourselves while being in love with life and others who matter and the ones who don’t as well. Of course, You can’t expect to win at life when all you do is spill hate and compare your life away.

Well, Another topic for laters! Comparisons.

Talk Later !!! I have an important appointment tomorrow. It’s late zzz.

Tips to style Indo-Western Outfits.

Also, it’s so convenient picking up pieces from yours and your mom’s wardrobe and playing around with the pieces.

One ought to keep in mind these following tips:

Tip 1: Denims

Team up a denim waistcoat or an oversized jacket with a flamboyant kurti.

Tip 2: Belts

A belt with a Saree or a kurti accentuates one’s waist perfectly.

Tip 3: Blazers:

One could choose solid colored blazers and team them up with Kurtis or loose tops. Finish the look with a bindi and jhumkis.

Tip 3: Footwear

One could carefully select their footwear on their indo western attires. Kolhapuri Chappals / Embroidered Juttis and sometimes even Sneakers help in curating a chic look while giving it a desi touch.

Other things I am fond of while choosing Indo Western styles :

Dhotis

They are not just worn by women over the period of time but by men as well, and Dhoti Pants can be styled with off shoulder crop tops or even peplums. These are so in trend and are loved by fashionistas even on occasions like Sangeet and Mehendi.

Junk Jewelry 

The best thing about Junk Jewellery is that the variety of these in different lengths and textures can be simply experimented with different combinations of outfits whether western or Indian. They just add the statement like nothing else. Bonus : So Inexpensive and easily available.

Until next time,

Sonal Arora

Too many parallel lives.

I’ve been living a dual life for almost 4 years now. By that I mean, wearing many hats Professionally. Most of my readers know that I’m not just a regular blogger, but also a Language Trainer.

It sometimes becomes too demanding to both ‘work from home’ and ‘work at home’; spend time with the loved ones and back of the head care too much about professional life.

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Amid all the mess and overthinking, we tend to mostly give in to Social Media and our guilty pleasures.

My routine during the lockdown has surprisingly been one of the busiest periods of my life. In interims, I’ve been shame eating.

[Got that word from one of the Netflix’s series called Schitt’s creek; another part of my messy routine.]

Shame eating /n/ /gerund/ – Emotional eating.

I wake up late, I sit with my family- We have our very own Card & Chai sessions, Safai Abhyaan (decluttering /reorganizing // also trying Vaastu), We all indulge in harmful eating sessions everyday, but we never forget our immunity boosting supplements.

I do the dishes and cook dinner daily.

I come back to my room by 12 am and that’s the time when my ‘Me- time’ begins unless I’m working on a project. Now between 12 am until the time I sleep; I’ve to do 4 more tasks including my work and shame eating again. Twitter’s and YouTube’s tab is always there on my system. While editing a video today, I was wondering how I’ve lost focus away from one part because back of my mind, I was overthinking about the other part.

Working for myself make me super nostalgic about my previous work place and the chilled out Me-time.

When I used to be on a break, I used to be on a break. I wasn’t overthinking about hundred million other things that Work from Home for my own self makes me do. It seems like overthinking is making me work 24/7 or at least whenever I’m up. I’ve become the worst boss and a very lethargic and disorganized employee of late.

It’s not been a gala ride tbh trying to turn off one button and switching on to another.

I’m grateful I’m busy doing nothing and overthinking everything during the lockdown days. No! Seriously I am thankful. I’ve got a lot of opportunities during the worst time for the world economically as well.

What I need to fix is- Being more organised and less lethargic. So, the point of writing this post was to find a solution that I already knew.

I’ve been writing on my blog daily before I hit the sack, but I’m not posting those.

Reason?

I’m writing those kinds of things that people write and burn. 😄

So, how’s your work rolling ? Are you working from home? How are you taking charge of your parallel lives? How easy or difficult has it been?

Hmmmm..

So,

Good night. 💛

PURPOSE.

They say,

“Do something you love and you won’t have to work for a day in life.”

Well, in no mood to google it, but something like that !!

Recently, I filtered everything I was doing one by one;

Every possible connection , Unwanted thoughts, Unwanted energies, Unwanted projects, Unwanted flirty clients.

And breathed..

and tried to figure out amid the screeching silent solitude if I really have found a purpose. They say, ‘We all are born with one.’

Flashback:

I used to steal my mom’s dupatta while she used to be asleep and would drape it on my tiny waist like it was a Saree. Sometimes, I used to enact like my favourite teacher and sometimes, enacted the sanitary pads advert rolling one tissue paper and one handkerchief pouring water onto both and trying to prove a point to my imaginary audience (Not that I knew what sanitary pads were then!) Yeah ! I must be what? a four year old thief?

So, to my surprise, I followed my heart *touches wood* all those years and in one of my oldest treasures (teenage diary) I found an year back that talks about my ambition and At 13, I write ‘I aspire to inspire’

and I’m right here <fast forward a decade & some years> still doing the same thing and now, even better professionally.

I googled a lot of signs on the topic: “How to know if you’ve found your purpose.” and Glad, every damn sign matched. I didn’t even need those, just some reassurance on my gut. I am so blessed and lucky to be doing what I do, what I am born for.

I sometimes wonder if I manifested all of this through an illusionary audience, & also if I were an actress in my past life or some theatre artist (because back then we didn’t have instagram and bloggers).

+ plenty of non relatable thoughts.

Speaking of blogs, Wow !! It feels so good to be back and writing again. Nothing better than a night when its raining cats and dogs at 4:01 AM. I was meaning to do this since long.

Writing deffo heals me. Not that I don’t have friends who listen to me, but isn’t this a game changer? Certainly !

haha, See! You ask yourself questions here and answer them yourself. That is the magic and We are all made up of magic. Aren’t we ?

Another question.

Of course ! We are… ❤️

The last shoot before the lockdown

Signing off

Sonal Arora

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